Relationships

what do you do when theres a girl that loves you and you love her, but you notice theres another girl that also likes you but you dont know how you feel about her, and you wanna find out but you dont want to screw up what you already have, because you love the person your currently with, even though you know its not going to last forever because of each others current circumstances. i know the answer to this question should be obvious, but i wanna get someone else perspective on this.

You don't say how old you are and that can make a difference. If you are in your teens, then part of life is to form friendships with the opposite sex. The mature way to handle it is this. Be honest with your current girl friend and tell her how much you love her but you want to make sure it is real love and that you need to broaden your horizons. Explain that you need both male and female friends in your life. Explain to her that she needs the same. She needs both male and female friends. Explain that you are fairly sure that she is the one you want for life, but you don't want to live a lie. Tell her that you want to be exclusively hers, body, mind and soul but you can't because you have got to sort out your feelings for this other girl to see if your feelings are real or not. Whatever you do, do not go behind your current girl friend's back to follow through with this "crush" girl. If your current girl friend decides that you should break up after you are being honest with her, then it becomes her problem, not yours. If she truly loves you, she will wait for you, if not, then it was meant to be for you to move on. Going through this test will teach you one way or the other which girl you want to be with. In the end, you may not want either of them. Honesty is the best policy and it is not fair to your current girlfriend or to you if when you are together you are always thinking of the new girl. That's considered cheating. When someone would rather be with someone they may like better than the one they are currently with then it's time to make a decision. Your current girl friend may very well break up with you, but over time, she will understand because it will also happen to her, if it hasn't already. Relationships are formed all of people's lives. Temptation to see if the grass is greener on the other side is always a part of people's lives. Usually if you teeter on the fence you end up on the other side. It's your life though and your decision to make. The one question you need to answer for yourself is this? Is it worth losing your current girlfriend just to find out how you feel about the other girl? Is it worth losing the current girlfriend if you lie to her and go to the other girl? If the answer is no it's not worth it to find out because you are gonna lose your girlfriend, then no, don't go looking at the greener grass. If the new girl is worth losing then jump over the fence as fast as you can. Either way there's gonna be consequences. You have to decide how much consequence you want to handle.

Gosh Mistery man, we sound alike, you are having a problem with 2 girls, and I'm with 2 man, so maybe the advice you gave me, might work for you, lol! I'm sorry i honestly thank you for the advice and greatly appreciated, is just funny to know that we have pretty much the same problem!

i guess you could say that BIBI but my problems is a bit more complicated then that, i wish it were that easy, and from the looks of it things are going to get a lot harder for me, and i'll soon have to come up with an answer to my problem or come up with the consequences. by the way if you have skype or msn you should add me xP. if you wanna add me i'll tell you my e-mail or screen name.

Hey Mysteryman, I don't have spyke or MSN, I just have my work email, I don't like having one at home because that brought problems too before, and MSN emails are blocked in my job! but really you think yours is more complicated? lol! you have no idea, don't be surprise if they are the same!! lol!

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