This tip brought to you by our Dad Guru John Valadez
on Sep 12, 2009
Life is full of choices. Where have we heard that quote before? The reason this particular quote is so well-known is because it’s true – very true. We are defined by the choices we make on a daily basis. Actually, our lives are shaped by our choices. We can choose to have children or not have children; we can choose to take a shower every day or not bathe; we can choose to be a participant in our immediate families or just ignore them. We make choices, choices and more choices all thee time; we have an opportunity to choose our life each day. What a great way to live. The opportunity we have to be a participant in our immediate family effects our children exponentially. Since I’m a single parent I feel my children need their aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents more than most children.
It’s true, at times children express the effects of divorce – it’s evident - and sometimes the effects are hidden.
The more family children of divorce have around them I personally believe the more comfortable they feel; their self-confidence is assisted tremendously. An ideal divorce world would be to have both parents in their lives; with mom and dad maintaining a healthy relationship and plenty of family support for the children – on both sides. Having this scenario is possible for every divorced couple. How is this possible? Simply put, all we have to do is make a choice and it will be so. It’s really that simple. We forgive people every day; why not forgive an ex-wife or ex-husband? Make a choice for your children that will affect them the rest of their lives – and yours.
As long as your ex is not abusive – mentally or physically – choose to put forth the effort of extending forgiveness. You can be the “bigger” person and your children will grow up with both parents, a large extended family and learn what it means to make the “right choices” for themselves. Choose to be a parent of courage and a giver of forgiveness. Your children’s happiness is at stake.
Have a great day and God Bless.
