This tip brought to you by our Dad Guru John Valadez
on Sep 14, 2009
It has been two years, ten months and eight days since my ex-wife and I separated and ended our marriage. In my newly found freedom I began dating two months after our separation. I maintained two relationships for less than two months during the first year; and I haven’t dated anyone in the last one year, ten months and eight days – until now. I joined one of those online dating sites – eHarmony – to try out dating in the new millennium. The entire process is relatively easy, safe and fun. In the beginning the software was sending me fifteen potential matches per day, so I had to re-enter some parameters to narrow the searches down and weed out some potential mates.
The experience has been relaxing and in the first two weeks I found someone I completed the entire guided communication with; we are meeting for the first time this coming Saturday. We’ve been talking on the phone for a week and she seems every bit like her profile and the person that peak my interest during the guided communication process. How did I know when it was time to begin searching for my potential soul mate again?
I just knew. In the almost three years I’ve separated and divorced I never really felt comfortable dating or looking for a date until a month ago. I wasn’t really very interested in finding my special someone; I was too busy trying to obtain full custody of my girls and realize my true purpose in life. Since this past July I have accomplished both quests. I now feel balance in my life and with my new found balance there was only one part missing. I wanted to have someone to share my happiness with and rejoice together. I just knew I was ready again; ready to put myself out there and give dating another try.
For those of you going through life as a single parent my only advice is to regain control of your life first; relearn who you are and why you are here; get divorced and straighten out the custody schedule and agreement; begin rebuilding a healthy co-parenting relationship with your ex; most importantly, forgive your ex-partner and close that chapter in your life; and then start over in your quest for a soul mate. This person I’m meeting on Saturday may or may not be the person I begin my ascension into the remaining portion of my life with, but I’m searching and putting myself in a position to find my special someone. You can as well.
Have a great day and God Bless.
