This tip brought to you by our Dad Guru John Valadez
on Sep 27, 2009
We all have some old habits we’d like just to fade way. Whether these practices are good or bad little effort is needed to break them. All you have to do is concentrate on why you need these dependencies and let them go. An example would be the need to always get the last word in an argument – very annoying habit. This particular tendency followed me around from relationship to relationship for quite some time until a handful of years ago. After my divorce I wanted to make a change and began with the “last word” weakness.
There’s a quote I love from Dale Carnegie,” The only way to win an argument is to avoid one.”
If you always get the last word in an argument, eventually, the only person you will be arguing with is yourself. It’s a success formula for loneliness. The only way to break this habit is to catch yourself before you are about to commit the act. When you feel an argument coming on – you know when it’s going to happen so don’t act like they just pop out of nowhere – try seeing the argument from the other person point of view. Instead becoming argumentative, become agreeable. Listen to their point and be silent - for once – and do not attempt to disprove anyone. This is the part that gets “know-it-alls” in trouble. Give the Ego a night off and be humble. People will like you more.
Also, stay away from drugs that will cripple your efforts; like alcohol, aggressive drugs or any kind of mood changing drugs – avoid all drugs and alcohol. People use the excuses like, “it wasn’t me, it was the alcohol speaking.” Those are famous last words screamed at the back of someone’s head.
Apply these techniques to other habits as well and they’ll be fading away in no time. Have a great day and God Bless.
