Happy Valentine’s Day!
If you are one of the many people who love Valentine’s day, turn away now. This post is for the haters.
How’s it going?
Whether you hate Valentine’s day because you’re single and feel like all the happy couples are rubbing their happiness in your face today, or because you’re in a relationship and feel pressure to make today live up to the impossible standards of your significant other, the emotion is the same. Today stresses you out.
You have probably uttered the words, “it’s just a Hallmark holiday” more than once in the last week or so and you’re probably just looking forward to tomorrow.
But what is it about Valentine’s day that stirs up so much negative emotion? It’s supposed to be the celebration of love- what could be more positive than that?
Well, yes love is positive, but it’s also powerful. It’s kinda like the Ring in ‘Lord of the Rings’- those who don’t have it, want it. And those who have it, don’t always know what to do with it.
Instead of making everyone feel special, Valentine’s Day can bring out a sense of competitiveness and jealousy. It starts in elementary school when valentines are distributed to classmates- people feel bad when their friend gets more than they do. It continues through high school when popularity is everything, and into adulthood when most people tend to be married or in long-term relationships. Whether you’re single, or in an unhappy relationship, Valentine’s day can make you feel stigmatized. It always seems like everybody else is more loved, better off and happier than you. And you feel pathetic in comparison.
So, how do you fix that? Well, the secret to feeling loved is to stop caring.
Stop caring what other people think so much… because honestly, most people are too busy worrying about what other people think of them to spend time judging you. Think about that for a minute.
With all that freedom from caring what other people think, just think of everything you’ll now have time to focus on! Focus on what makes you happy, focus on making other people happy, and focus on being happy for other people.
It’s amazing how much love you’ll start to feel when you just stop caring.