Monthly Archives: January 2014

If there was a Super Bowl for awesomeness, Seahawks Coach Pete Carroll just won

“Don’t you open your mouth about the best or I’m gonna shut it for you real quick.”

These now infamous words spoken by Richard Sherman after winning the game that sent the Seattle Seahawks to the Super Bowl were spoken at precisely the wrong time. Live, on camera, to Erin Andrews.

Should we excuse him?

Yes and no. It is that very intensity, passion and emotion that make him the player he is on the field. Unfortunately he unleashed it off the field.

What did his coach, Pete Carroll have to say about this in his interview with ESPN?

“It’s unfortunate that it was so crazed, but that’s who he is. His mental makeup to get ready for that matchup was expressed right there so he could play the way he can play. Unfortunately, sharing with the world, it didn’t come across so well.”

Defense, protection and forgiveness. Being a coach is about more than getting the best out of your players and clients- it’s about understanding who each one of them is.

It’s about understanding how their very strengths can be weaknesses if used incorrectly. But even our mistakes can lead to opportunities. According to Carroll:

“How we handle it is we try to grow and learn and work our way through who we are and figure out who we want to be. This was an extraordinary learning opportunity. You’ll see some benefit from it.”

Carroll managed to coach a Super Bowl team by infusing a lot of common sense and optimism into his tactical leadership. He looks at his team as a family. In reaction to how he felt about Sherman’s outburst he replied:

“When you really love somebody and care for them, you do everything you can help them be everything they can be. At times they are going to make mistakes and break your heart, but if you love them, you stay with them. You give [them] the best chance to be all they can be.”

He then added:

“Richard is a wonderful spirit. He’s got an amazing heart, and he has great sensitivity. He goes all the way to the end of the spectrum when it comes to expressing himself.”

Carroll’s coaching technique is one that can be applied to all relationships. One of forgiveness, understanding and hard work.

So while the media frenzy focuses on Sherman’s aggressiveness, I think the truly remarkable story is about Carroll’s perspective, coaching genius and level headed coolness.

Seahawks fan or not, there’s a coach we can all look up to.

Dreams are meant to be lofty. Don’t let the realist inside you write yours off too early.

Doubt. That huge daunting monster that has a way of ruining your plans with it’s negativity and persuasiveness isn’t as huge or as daunting  as you think.

When we pull back the curtain, we see that doubt is simply the voice of the realist.

The realist wants to know the plan, including where the time and money will come from. However, in the early phase of dreaming, you may not know. Don’t let the realist immediately turn into a monster who might judge or obliterate your idea.

Give the realist the information it needs. If you ignore or reject it, it will cleverly agitate or distract you. Being realistic offers prudence and makes you do your homework, but if you are overly realistic or go to strategy too soon, you will most likely compromise the dream and kill your passion.

Use doubt to your advantage. It is important to be realistic when you are setting your short term goals because this will help you set attainable goals and avoid disappointment.

The Doubt Monster vs The Realist

When you hear different voices–the doubt monster and the realist–it becomes difficult to overcome obstacles. When the two voices merge, they can become muddled and result in confusion and poor decisions. You might poison your dream by projecting doubt into it. Then with each step you take toward what you want, you also move toward your doubt.

Doubt and fear do not belong in your dream. These feelings are simply part of your reality.

Dream vs Reality

Overcoming obstacles may mean getting out of your own way. Don’t let doubt and fear kill off the possibilities of your dream by being overly realistic. Dreams are meant to be lofty.

The time to be realistic in the dreaming process is when you are working on strategy. But if you go there too soon, you may compromise your dream before it takes wings.

Hear your dreamer’s voice. Let it communicate exactly what it wants, its wildest desires. Turn the volume up so you can also clearly hear its insights, wisdom and gifts. Swing outside of “being realistic” and trust that your dreamer’s voice knows what it needs.

Be Courageous, Outrageous and Audacious

Be Courageous.

Follow your heart and act on something that you know to be true for you. Demonstrate that you are committed to at least exploring your dream and prove to yourself that it’s important by taking action.

The saying “action speaks louder than words” never rang so true. Living powerfully includes being authentic and compassionate. Live large yet genuine. Trade the mundane for the unexpected.

Be Outrageous

Play! Do you remember the sound of your deepest belly laugh? Recognize what makes you happy and bring more of what you love into your daily life.

Rekindle your sense of humor and do things that not only make you smile, but that make you giggle. Extra credit is awarded for making someone else laugh. Happiness brings confidence and with confidence you have the power to achieve your dreams.

Be Audacious

Don’t worry about offending others (or your own sensibilities) with some bold dreams and some bold moves to achieve those dreams.

Make a plan, and then do whatever it takes to get there. Surround yourself with a positive support system. When things get rough it’s integral to have positive people around to tell you to keep going.

Make big changes. You’ll see big results. Each day laid out before us is precious and unique. In the end, however it arrives, you can say, “I truly lived my life.”

Let Your Inner Visionary Out

Visionaries embody what it means to be a big dreamer. They are able to maintain their focus on success and their strategic plan to achieve that success. Setbacks and failure don’t stop them. 

As Theodore Roosevelt once said,

“Far better it is to dare mighty things to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered with failure, than to take rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in the gray twilight that know not victory or defeat.”

Always remember that it is better to try your hardest and fail then to not try at all. True dreamers pull inspiration and motivation from defeat and failure. They consider them learning experiences. Successful dreamers are always learning and changing!

As Ralph Waldo Emerson once said,

“That which we persist in doing becomes easier to do; not that the nature of the thing itself is changed, but that our power to do is increased.”

Practice makes perfect! Just because you may be slow or ungainly at a task doesn’t mean you should stop. The more you work at it, the better you will become.

Find inspiration from a mentor who will help you keep your chin up when you get frustrated. Dreamers look for support and help when it is needed and take failure as a landmark on their path to success!

Are you inspired by big dreams?

Don’t be afraid to let your inner visionary out! Become a dreamer and you will be one step closer to achieving success.

Do you have a box of rice under your bed?

We have three boys in our family who absolutely love anything truck, tractor or big machine related.  If they can take it in the sandbox and dig with it, dump with it or bury it, they will play with it for hours.

Summer was coming to an end and the days of spending the afternoons outside and in the sand were coming to a close.  Soon it would be too cold and digging, dumping and burying would have to wait for warmer weather to return.

Or would it? Not when you have a Nana as cool as ours. Nana keeps a very neat house where toys and love are abundant, but messes are not.  The idea of bringing sand into the house was not even an option.

However, when there is a will to bring joy to those you love, there’s a way. So Nana went to the store, found a 2 x 3 foot plastic container and filled it with rice.  Her plan was: Play and dig to your heart’s content, then quickly clean up with Mr. Kirby, pop the top back on and slide it back under the bed.  What FUN!

Sometimes I even find myself getting down in the rice to join them.partially to spend time with my boys, but partially to just play in the rice myself.  There’s something therapeutic about feeling the grains run through my fingers and watching them fall, then burying the cement mixer with the backhoe and dump truck, and then digging it back out with the front loader.

It takes me back to a time when not a day went by that I didn’t make time to play.  I played with a sibling, went to the neighbors or just found something to engage the imagination.

Life can get so crazy busy; It is easy to forget the joys of playing as a child and the benefits we gain by continuing to make time to play as adults.

So create your own box of rice: Take a walk in a creek, go for an adventure through the woods and build a snowman with style. Reach back to the days of play and I bet you will smile and feel lighter!

Contributed by Executive, Money and Relationship Coach,  Becca Buttermore


Be a Goal Setter, Then a Goal Getter

We all have goals, but how many of us actually write them down? We write down grocery lists so we don’t forget anything, but when it comes to our deepest desires and dreams many of us banish those thoughts to the backs of our mind; promising to focus on them later, when the time is right.

Well, “later” is right now. Go get a pen and a piece of paper, or open a Word doc as you sit reading this at your computer.

Setting goals allows you to determine your own destiny. By knowing precisely what you want to achieve, you’ll understand exactly what you have to do to get there.

No more wasting time, energy and money on distractions that don’t get you any closer to where you’re trying to go. To draw an analogy, if you wanted to go to the grocery store, would you fill your tank with gas and drive 20 miles in the opposite direction? No. You would drive directly toward the grocery store. Similarly, once you have a clear idea of where you want to go in life, you will naturally steer yourself there as well.

To make your list of goals, follow the following steps:

Step 1:  Clear your mind and focus on the accomplishments that you would like to achieve.

Step 2:  Outline a plan to achieve these goals. Do you have to go back to school? Switch careers? Whatever it is, write it down.

Step 3: Once you have a plan established, set milestone goals to help you execute your plan. Each milestone goal should be set so that it is challenging but still possible. For example, if you need to go back to school, find out what you have to do to apply. Break it down into an easy step-by-step process.

By setting sharp, clearly defined goals, you’ll be able to measure and take pride in their achievement. You will see forward progress in what might have previously felt like a never ending cycle of stagnation.


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Top 10 Reasons To Hire A Life Coach

Hey, what are you up to right now? Browsing the web? Looking for advice on stuff? S’cool. Know what would be an even more productive use of your time? Working with a life coach.

Yep. Stop messing around on the computer and hire one (right after you read this list on the computer, naturally).

Top 10 Reasons You Should Hire A Life Coach Right Now

10. Because your New Years Resolution lasted til January 2.

9. Because the next time you’re stuck indoors thanks to a Polar Vortex, you’d like to burn firewood instead of bills.

8. Because life coaching works. Simple as that.

7. Because there’s an inverse correlation between your expanding waistline and your thinning financial portfolio, and you’d like to reverse that.

6. Because you hate those people who love Mondays… but only because you secretly, really, madly, truly wish you were one of them.

5. Because that movie “Her” – where the guy dates his computer- is eerily similar to the main relationship in your own life.

4. Because you know “better” exists.

3. Because you’re doing pretty well… but your arch nemesis is doing amazingly well and you need an edge to remain competitive.

2. Because it’s that time of year when people make changes that will catapult them to new heights over the next 12 months, and you don’t want to be left in the dust again like last year.

1. Because you deserve it.

Life Coaches specialize in a variety of niches. You’re bound to find one that can take you to the next level of your career, personal life, financial freedom, health goals, etc.

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“You have to poke the poop”

Adviser, Ally, Consultant, Motivator, Mentor… There are many ways Life Coaches have been described- or may even describe themselves- but I think Martha Beck says it best when she refers to herself as a “Wayfinder.”

Beck was recently featured in the New York Times article, The Merchant of Just Be Happy as she conducted one of her first all-male coaching retreats on her California ranch.

Up until recently, life coaching was a business that catered to women. The concept of “being happy” is ingrained in young women, but men? They’re taught to “do well”. Many times this means sacrificing their own happiness and well being for the good of their paycheck.

Beck is working to change that.

Of course coaching is not new to men. From sports teams to business coaches, men are certainly accustomed to this sort of rapport. But happiness coaching? This is new. And it’s not going away.

Beck’s clients are not layabouts. She does not work with men who float from one dead end job to the next wondering why they’re not fulfilled. Her clients are CEOs, technology wizards, even GE seeks her guidance.

Her motto is do what makes you happy, and the money will follow. When you stress about money, the money doesn’t come. But when you focus your energy in positive ways, the money will always be there when you need it. This can be hard notion for many success-driven people to accept on the surface. But on this most recent retreat, Beck’s clients were in the woods, tracking bear scat, when they all agreed they found fresh scat based on it’s appearance. It wasn’t until one man poked it with a stick that they realized it was old and hard. The stick broke.

Their accepted beliefs, they learned, were crap.

“You have to poke the poop,” said Beck, to imply that you shouldn’t just accept the limits of your current way of thinking. You have to test it.

Beck is a living embodiment of this theory. She set out to help people find their way in the mid 90s, before it was called Life Coaching, and she has made millions along the way.

As of last year, Life Coaching has become a $2 billion business. For an industry that isn’t even regulated yet, many of it’s practitioners have done quite well for themselves. What was once dismissed as a sham of a profession is now gaining major credibility one happiness-seeking CEO at a time.

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Don’t swim with polar bears

For a creature that is so good at acting like a typical bear on land, the polar bear is surprisingly great at acting like a fish in the water as well.

Polar bears are very strong swimmers and have been spotted swimming as far as 200 miles from land.

They use a “doggie paddle” approach to propel themselves through the icy waters of the Arctic Circle.

With the use of their huge paws, polar bears can swim up to 6 mph. To put this speed in perspective, Michael Phelps’s fastest time is 6 mph.

So if you’re not Michael Phelps, you cannot win in a swimming race against a polar bear.

And if you are Michael Phelps, you will probably tie the polar bear, even on your best day.

Also good to note: while polar bears prefer to hunt on land, they are also capable of doing it in the water.

So to sum up, if you don’t like losing races to huge marine mammals, and/or you don’t like being hunted in the water, don’t swim with polar bears.

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Yellow snow is not lemon flavor

…Unless you’re talking about Italian ice. But generally speaking, no, no it’s not lemon flavor. But that’s okay because when it comes to sweets, Americans don’t care for lemon anyways.

What do we want? Chocolate!

Anything else? Some peanut butter! Thank you for asking!

When do we want it? (already chewing)

For years M&M’s have not only been the most popular candy in the US, they held the world title as well. However, as of October 30, 2013 Reece’s has officially surpassed M&Ms as the nation’s top selling candy.

This year’s top 10 selling candy list is as follows:

10. Almond Joy

9. Milky Way

8. Hershey’s Cookies N’ Cream

7. Three Musketeers

6. Twix

5. Kit Kat

4. Hershey Bar

3. Snickers

2. M&Ms

1. Reece’s Peanut Butter Cups

Interestingly, 3 of the top 4 candy bars have been around for over 70 years. The Hershey Bar was introduced in 1900, Reece’s in 1928 and M&Ms is the young’un of the group debuting in 1941. It just goes to show, candy has a nostalgic value to it. For many people it quite literally tastes like childhood.

What’s YOUR favorite candy? What was it when you were little?

What’s your favorite chocolate combination?

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